It’s hard to parent in a pandemic. There are so many casualties, not the least of which are uncertainties, disappointments, and crushed expectations. Today I’m sharing a post about high school graduation by @Brooke Romney Writes from Thursday, April 29, 2021. I have a child who recently graduated from a pandemic-pocked high school. It would be good for me to remember Brooke’s wisdom to “embrace reality & individual timing” and be patient with the process of becoming.
It’s that time of year.
Your feed is full of kids winning elections, going to prom, making teams, collecting awards, opening mission calls & heading off to dream schools surrounded by the
“Best group of kids EVER.”
It’s an exciting time…for some. But not for all.
So, I’m just popping in for a little reality check.
It’s okay if your kid didn’t win, didn’t get asked, is sitting the bench, or is never recognized.
It’s okay if their now doesn’t include a mission or a dream school or if their future feels hazy.
It’s okay if there are just medium friends or if they are ready to bust out of high school and never look back.
It’s also okay to feel a little sad about it.
But most parents don’t post about that, so you might also feel a little lonely about it.
It’s been such a weird year, in every way.
So be happy for the kids that DID get that great experience, who had the loyal friends, all the memories and a future that looks picture perfect.
Then, find peace knowing that millions of people have found success, happiness and fulfillment without ever going to junior prom or a top tier university.
Twenty years from now, no one will remember who the quarterback was on their mediocre high school football team or care about who graduated with a 4.0. I promise.
Life doesn’t end after high school. It begins. Remember that.
So cheer your own kid on, passionately, in just the way he or she needs it.
Don’t spend the next few months drooling over the filtered photos of your friend’s family or wishing your kid’s experience was more like someone else’s.
Embrace reality & individual timing.
Recognize that your child’s life is exactly as it should be in order to become the person they were always meant to be.
Celebrate the good things, the lessons learned, the growth achieved, the relationships that mattered.
Talk about the endless opportunities the future holds & how cool it is when everyone grows up.
Help them look forward with focus, faith, openness and adventure.
And reassure them, with certainty, that the best is yet to come.