Julie K. Nelson
Julie K. Nelson is a wife and mother of five children, raising them in Illinois and now Utah. She received a bachelor’s degree in education from Brigham Young University and a master’s degree from Utah State University in marriage, family and human development. She is a Certified Family Life Educator (CFLE) and Assistant Professor at Utah Valley University in Family Science. She is an author of two parenting books and her scholarly research and creative writing have been published in journals, reference manuals, and anthologies. She has appeared on TV as well as contributing on BYU radio twice a month as a parenting guest expert.
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Julie K. Nelson
Awesome! The book looks wonderful. . . I think I’ll order one for my daughter.
“Parenting with Spiritual Power” is a beautiful book. There are gems on every page.
I read this great article on KSL.com and then looked at the author’s name… could it be the Julie Nelson I know? It is! What a great article about helping children face their fears. I think I will have to order your book!
I have always thought so highly of you and Roland and I’m sure you have raised an amazing family. I hope to see you at the Nelson reunion this summer!
Mrs. Nelson, I just read your article on KSL.com titled “Gatekeeping and co-parenting”. I am a new step-mom and the descriptions of a gatekeeper listed in your article fit my husband’s ex-wife 100%. She is impossible to work with. The latest, last night one step daughter called to say she wanted to stay home Easter weekend because she will ‘get more’ things there instead of spending the weekend with us. As an elementary child, she does not plan a month in advance. Whenever she is on the phone with my husband she sounds like a robot and we can hear her mom telling her what to say. He never talks to his children in between visits because the ex-wife is always right there and half the time takes the phone from the child and screams and yells at my husband. Suggestions? Any help would be appreciated.
Heather, I feel such sadness for situations like this. Your husband is really on the front line of a battle and your child seems to be a casualty. He will have to figure that out but you can express what you notice is happening and encourage him to take control if he chooses. The child’s mother is working from a place of pain and hopefully, will recover eventually and behavior better. You can only do what you know is right and give your step child the love, support and discipline that you know will pay off in the long run. Eventually, a mistreated child will know the difference between who really cares and who doesn’t. If you keep yourself above the fray, and continue being a loving adult in her life, she will see your stability as an anchor in her life.