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More Play (Less TV) This Summer

Is that even possible?

It seems that kids are turning to electronics 24/7 for summer vacation. Television and other handheld devices are more inviting than ever.  They are an easy way to keep kids occupied while we work from home, or just want peace and quiet. And they’re easier to clean up than Play Doh.

Sure, gaming is fun and TV has some educational programming, but many parents want more than that for their kids. Aren’t they supposed to learn how to play with others? Socialize? Problem solve (other than how to shoot angry birds to kill virtual pigs)? Engage in creativity and sports? We have this intuitive sense that gaming and TV are like Twinkies: great for a treat, but not for a steady diet. Sadly, many kids are becoming sugar junkies on technology.

The featured photo for this post is a spinner for kids to use for balance in their lives. It could be used for summer or the whole year. Whether or not you are turned on by this “spin” on the Fidget Spinner craze,  I’d like to suggest five ideas for more play and less TV this summer.

  1. Bring out the goods. The expression comes to mind: “You can’t squeeze blood out of a turnip.” Kids might need a jump start to squeeze creative juices from their stagnant minds. This means it’s up to us, the adult, to supply plenty of material and equipment like sidewalk chalk, Nerf guns, water colors, and roller blades. It doesn’t have to be expensive either. When my kids were small, from time time I’d have an open-ended “make and take” activity on the kitchen table when friends were over. I’d put out rubber stamps and ink pads, various kinds of paper, scissors, glue sticks, glitter, markers, stickers, and decorative punches. They made crowns, cards, paper dolls, you name it. “Trashables” extends this creative process by offering empty egg cartons, paper towel rolls, empty cereal boxes, aluminum foil, etc. Fort building is another popular activity that only requires blankets and chairs.
  2. Practice a 1:1 ratio. For every one hour of physical activity, a child can earn one hour of screen time. It doesn’t have to be a huge sporting activity, but a water fight, bike ride, or hide and seek will do. You’d be surprised how they get so involved in the fun, the hour extends and the time is forgotten.
  3. Be involved. Kids may need your guidance to get ideas. Once they get started, they can continue on their own. Teach them how to play hopscotch and “Around the World” basketball. Draw a “road map” with sidewalk chalk on the driveway or sidewalk and let your little ones drive their toy cars around, and teach them trampoline games. Kids are growing up not knowing HOW to engage in self-guided activities so they resort to TV and gaming to inform them instead. I’d also like to promote summer programs that parents can initiate such as library summer reading programs. Go with your child to the library weekly to get a handful of new books to read and audio books to listen to.  In order to do #3, it’s a given that the parents unplug for a while too (and perhaps find out they are just as addicted as their kids!)
  4. Keep a routine. I like the Fidget Spinner idea where each day the kids know the routine and how to get to “PLAY.” This other idea was shared on the internet and has a similar process:rulesThis may scream,”Too much structure!” because you would rather let your kids do their own thing. It’s summer, after all, right? I read a lot of negative comments that were posted about this idea. Stuff like, “Hey I played computer games 24/7 when I was a kid. Now I’m a computer programmer. I don’t think playing with cardboard boxes would have got me where I am today.” I would respectfully respond that working with computers successfully is one small part of a person’s overall well being and ability to have a fulfilling life and relationship with others.
  5. Recruit other kids and parents. It may not make you The Most Popular Parent on the Block, but encourage your kids’ friends to put away their devices when they come over. Teach them other ways of playing. Talk to other parents about research that overwhelmingly reports the perils of too much technology and TV. It’s hard to fight the tsunami of usage if you are doing it alone. My friend’s son is having a device-free summer and all the friends support and respect him. They know they need to come up with other ideas like skateboarding and playing basketball. The board games have been dusted off and been a gold mine of connection and fun.

If you aren’t convinced, search the internet for plenty of stories and tips where parents did the unthinkable: unplugged their kids from TV and/or electronics. Here is one such testimonial, among others that will give you the inspiration and willpower to do was is best (but not always easiest at first!).

 

 

Infertility

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This is a heart-wrenching post from waiting for baby bird

What is infertility, you ask?

The dictionary would tell you that it is simply being unable to conceive within a year of actively trying or being able to carry a baby to full term. But it’s far more than that. And it’s far more than just an inconvenience. It’s a disease of the reproductive system that affects 1 in 8 couples. And like any other disease, it is frustrating. It is gut-wrenching. And it is depressing. It’s like a grave that keeps following you around day after day as it swallows your hope and buries more and more of your dreams with the tears you just shed.

It is desperately longing to be pregnant. Wanting to know what it feels like to have a life growing inside of you. A life that has your eyes and his smile. A life that you created in love.

It is walking down the baby aisles and touching the onsies, picking up the booties, and wondering when. And asking why.

It’s loving a child you have never met. And missing them fiercely every day.

It’s emptiness as you walk by the bedroom that should be a nursery. It’s loneliness as your house is absent from the pitter patters of tiny feet in the morning or giggles from bath time at night.

It’s frustration that leads to desperation as you try every vitamin recommended, test suggested, treatment procedure offered, medicine given, and diet instructed.

It is feeling unworthy. Because maybe your faith is too weak. Your prayers are not enough. Or your past too damning.

It is trying to understand why prostitutes, drug addicts and those who abuse their children are given such blessings. But you? You seem to have to fight and work and struggle beyond your strength and exhaust all of your resources to receive.

It’s a constant war between your body and your soul. A war that you must fight to win daily and a war that is exhausting, yet you battle on.

It is trying to remain hopeful, yet realistic. And failing to find the balance.

It’s hearing the words, “I’m sorry, but there is no heartbeat.”

Or expecting to walk out of the hospital with a birth certificate, but instead it’s a death certificate.

THAT IS INFERTILITY.

It’s more than just an inconvenience.

It’s more than just the inability to conceive.

It’s dream shattering. Soul crushing. And heartbreaking.

And that is what 1 in 8 couples deal with on a daily basis. Couples that could be your friends, neighbors, or family members. So please keep them in your prayers because the prayer you pray for them today, could be the one that makes a difference in their lives tomorrow.

Open Doors

I know,  I’m lucky. I have two married daughters who live on my same street. One is 4 houses down; the other is a hop, skip, and a jump away from our house. They’re both renting so I know it’s not permanent, but I’m relishing this brief time they are so close and pop in often for a chat or a bite to eat.

Like clockwork, my oldest brings over our grandson around dinnertime. It’s like Christmas every day at 6:00 p.m.

A few days ago, it was early in the morning when heard the *crunch crunch* of someone eating cold cereal in my kitchen. My husband was in bed, still asleep, so I called out to our son. No answer. I got up and found my newly-married daughter there. It tickled me. So does this meme:

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20 Parenting Hacks

There’s not place to hide in parenting. Nowhere to run.

Do you need a little help with those sticky, tricky spots? Life can get messy and whenever kids are involved. Or perhaps you’re just tired of hearing, “I’m bored” and you need some time to yourself in the bathroom. Here are 20 parenting life hacks to make your job easier.

1.PLACE TAPE OVER THE SPEAKERS ON YOUR KIDS’ TOYS TO LOWER THE VOLUME.

2. PUT A CUPCAKE LINER UNDER A POPSICLE TO KEEP IT FROM MELTING ALL OVER YOUR KID’S HAND.

3. EASILY SHAPE SNOW INTO BLOCKS USING A RECTANGULAR-SHAPED TUPPERWARE CONTAINER.

4. MAKE MEALTIME LESS MESSY BY PUTTING KETCHUP UNDER YOUR KID’S HOT DOG INSTEAD OF ON TOP OF IT.

5. KEEP YOUR CANDY SAFE FROM YOUR KIDS BY STASHING IT INSIDE A HEALTHY SNACK’S EMPTY PACKAGING.

6. HAVE A KID WHO CONSTANTLY PULLS OFF THEIR DIAPER (OR STRIPS NAKED)? TRY PUTTING THEIR ONESIE ON BACKWARD.

7. CUT A STICKER DOWN THE MIDDLE, THEN PUT ONE HALF INSIDE EACH OF YOUR KID’S SHOES. THIS WAY THEY’LL ALWAYS KNOW WHICH SHOE GOES ON WHICH FOOT.

8. WASH BABY SOCKS TOGETHER IN A LAUNDRY BAG SO YOU NEVER LOSE ANOTHER ONE AGAIN.

9. IF YOUR KID IS AFRAID OF MONSTERS AT NIGHT, MAKE SOME “MONSTER SPRAY” TO SPRAY IN THEIR ROOM BEFORE BED.

10. PUT PLASTIC WRAP OVER THE TOP OF A CUP TO SERIOUSLY CUT DOWN ON SPILLS.

11. ATTACH A CLIP TO THE END OF YOUR KID’S BUBBLE WAND TO KEEP IT FROM FALLING INTO THE CONTAINER.

12. USE AN EMPTY WIPES CONTAINER TO STORE TRAVEL SNACKS FOR YOUR KID.

13. KEEP TODDLERS ENTERTAINED ON A FLIGHT BY LETTING THEM PLAY WITH GEL CLINGS ON THE WINDOW.

14. THE BEST TIME TO CUT YOUR BABY’S NAILS IS 20 MINUTES AFTER THEY’VE FALLEN ASLEEP.

15. KEEP YOUR TODDLER BUSY BY LETTING THEM “PAINT” THE FENCE WITH WATER.

16. PUT A KEY RING ON YOUR CHILD’S JACKET TO MAKE IT EASIER FOR THEM TO ZIP UP.

17. USE SHOE ORGANIZERS TO ORGANIZE YOUR KID’S THINGS IN THE CAR.

18. DOES YOUR KID YELL “TOO COLD!” WHEN THEY NEED AN ICE PACK? GIVE THEM A BAG OF FROZEN MARSHMALLOWS INSTEAD.

19. Turn an old cardboard box, pizza box, or appliance box into something amazing. Let your child color, paint, or draw on it and turn that ordinary box into something magical like a castle, a car, or a T.V.

20. Use a mesh bag to put all those tiny toys (Legos, anyone?) into and  run on a dishwasher cycle to clean.

Article credit:  100 Genius Hacks Guaranteed To Make A Parent’s Job Easier